More and more speed dating nights are popping up all across Australia.
You can see them advertised in pubs, clubs and cafes, by people who know nothing about dating, and others are held by dating services, including online dating sites, that want their members to get together for a good night out.
How well does speed dating work though?
Let’s explore the mistakes that people make in the search of a relationship.
The idea of speed dating is that you meet a range of different people for a short period of time – maybe even only for a few minutes.
You will spend your night rotating around tables in a structured manner, talking to each of your potential matches to see if you have a spark.
At the end of the night, after you’ve given your sexy elevator speech many, many times, you can all indicate if there is someone you’d like to date again – for longer.
Speed dating sound great, because it’s quick.
Dating can be a notoriously slow and complicated process, so for someone who wants their results now, speed dating might sound like a great idea.
Meeting a room full of single guys or girls could be an exciting time for someone who hasn’t had any action in a while, and the great thing is that all of these single people will actually spend time talking to you.
The problem is though, despite the number of people you haphazardly meet, you still might not get any action.
Who will you meet on your speed date?
There are a lot of people in this world, and finding a relationship can be challenging because we aren’t all right for everyone.
So, what makes you think that sitting ten random strangers down in a pub or club will get you the perfect match?
These people might have been selected by gender and age, but you won’t find anything more personalised than that.
The only thing you could have in common with your speed dating partners is that they are single, and looking for a quick fix too.
What’s the rush?
Speed dating can be fun, but why do you need to do it so quickly?
Can you really learn about a person from a few minutes of conversation?
What can you gain from these face-to-face meetings that you could not have from an online dating site?
The great thing about online dating is that you can gain a quick overview of a person from their profile, and if they aren’t interesting, then you move on.
You don’t even need to spend the rest of a time period talking to them.
Wouldn’t it be better to find a few potential matches (who you are really interested in) online, and then spend a proper date with them to learn what they are really like?
Is speed dating just a gimmick?
Speed dating sounds fun, and you might even have a good social night out.
You could certainly meet people you haven’t connected with before, enjoy a few drinks and try something new.
But how many speed daters are looking for a serious relationship vs how many are simply looking for something casual?
Speed dating can be expensive, especially if you take a liking to several other speed daters and arrange a first date at some stage.
If time and money are important to you, maybe speed dating just isn’t right for you?